tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post5427338633636170761..comments2024-03-05T01:05:03.453-08:00Comments on Mellow Yellow: relying on the kindness of "men".Bamboohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03319772334781258485noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post-54867636390411305332011-05-09T00:37:58.011-07:002011-05-09T00:37:58.011-07:00hrm...i really like what was said in this series o...hrm...i really like what was said in this series of comments. I think that the power thing is really important and whilst I imagine that there are soooooooooo many different dynamics and many, many different experiences of those dynamics, it is worthwhile to vocalise and question our individual experiences. empowering and powersharing are 2 totally different concepts and I, personally, think thatChả lụahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720045266208891122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post-8473746482712466492011-04-28T02:17:11.291-07:002011-04-28T02:17:11.291-07:00this post was about negotiating/ defining spaces a...<i>this post was about negotiating/ defining spaces and boundaries with and without pro-feminist heterosexual men</i><br /><br />Just to be clear, I was suggesting that negotiating and defining has to fall back to explicit and verbal if anyone is unsure. And saying that you apparently hadn't done that, but left it at an unspoken wondering. While saying that that was problematic.<br /><br />I Moznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post-28102863956193937982011-04-28T01:24:19.889-07:002011-04-28T01:24:19.889-07:00@indofrenchie: I was trying to suggest that if you...@indofrenchie: I was trying to suggest that if you don't talk about it, and he doesn't talk about it, then it's no surprise that you don't know what each other is thinking. Sure, if you're only wondering what was going on *in retrospect* then yes, there's nothing you could have done differently. But if you are wondering right now about what some friendly bloke is thinking,Moznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post-50728486302144417022011-04-27T04:33:46.625-07:002011-04-27T04:33:46.625-07:00@moz - i think its quite difficult to discern or b...@moz - i think its quite difficult to discern or be able to comment meaningfully with this post, because it is basically me blogging, train of thoughts' wise. am not quite sure how you're meaning to advise - if you're suggesting that i should have somehow 'known better' and just expressed my suspicions that i think he's interested or whatever, i don't think that'sbatikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14729920198994438813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post-24552403476833740362011-04-26T20:31:23.345-07:002011-04-26T20:31:23.345-07:00Random male advice injection: my feeling is you ma...Random male advice injection: my feeling is you may be relying too much on the secret signs, and not enough on the saying what you think. I suspect your mother will disagree quite vigorously, but it's ok for nice girls to express their feelings. Exercising some cultural stereotypes, that's possibly more likely/more strongly felt in asian cultures.<br />One of the hard things is being the Moznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-155250578367554094.post-2987316938285234262011-04-25T14:04:47.930-07:002011-04-25T14:04:47.930-07:00Sorry to hear a man has been making you feel uncom...Sorry to hear a man has been making you feel uncomfortable, if I knew they guy I would tell him to apologise, let you know how he feels and counsel him that being honest when you like someone whilst difficult makes things a hell of a lot less stressful for both sides.<br /><br />What I wanted to say though is that most pro feminist men would be struggling through similar issues. As men we have Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com